Welcome to the daily inspiration page…this is where I divvy out small little nuggets of daily motivation, thought provoking ideas, and soulful wisdom! The purpose of this page, just like this blog, is simple…my goal is to start your day out on a positive note! Enjoy!
My Best, and As Always…Live Happily, be Leisurely!
xoxo~ Tara Rae
How many times have you let your emotions take you hostage and your knee jerk reaction to someone was anger or annoyance instead of understanding and kindness?
Remember…don’t take a person at face value, sometimes their battles are determining THEIR knee jerk reaction.
I was reminded of this today, when speaking to a colleague that I hadn’t talked to in several months. As we spoke, to put it plainly, something seemed off in the conversation. As we finished what we were speaking about, we almost got off the phone, but then something told me to delve deeper. I asked how they were doing and if everything was okay.
After a slight pause, instead of a generic answer like “Everything is fine,” they proceeded to tell me that they had been battling cancer, that they were currently undergoing treatments, and that their mother had passed away two weeks ago.
I was shocked and so upset to hear all of this news. I can’t imagine how hard these past months must have been on them and their family!
After we said our goodbyes and hung up, I said a prayer and thought WOW! What if I would have just gotten off the phone and not took the time to really see (or hear in this case)…what was right in front of me? How often do we do that?
So today, I challenge you…on this week’s Monday Mentions when we normally call out people for being kind…instead, be unnecessarily kind to someone else! Take that extra moment, and SEE what is right in front of you.
You never know what someone is facing…maybe they need to talk, maybe they need to be heard, or maybe they just need to tell their battle to someone else.
So on this Monday…be quick to kindness, not to anger. Have a blessed day!
Monday Mentions! If kindness was a love language, it would be mine. We often underestimate the power of simply being kind or being there for someone in the way that they need you to be…at the moment they need you to be!
How often do we forget to say, “Thank you!” or “I am so grateful to have you in my life!”
Has someone blessed your life with a simple kindness lately? IF SO…CALL THAT PERSON OUT in the comments below!👇🏻 No matter how big or small the act…if they showed kindness…LET THEM KNOW!
Let’s get our week started off on the right foot…with gratitude and kindness for the people in our lives!
Is there something that you have been wanting to do, but seem to find every excuse your mind can possibly conjure up why not to?
When you really want to do something, the hardest hurtle to jump over isn’t other people, most often it’s YOURSELF!
It is harder to believe in yourself than support someone else…isn’t that strange?! You may find your mind playing devil’s advocate by asking the questions that you may fear the answers to like…
What if I fail? NOPE! Don’t focus on if you fail…focus on what you are about TO ACCOMPLISH, because even if you fail, you still accomplished and learned something valuable along the way! Or maybe you surprise yourself and…you DON’T fail!
What if there isn’t room for me in this space? Listen, there is ALWAYS room for someone/something new in any space! So don’t worry about whether or not there is room for you…worry about what unique aspect of yourself that you are going to bring to said space.
What if other people have done it before me? Let’s be honest…chances are anything we do has already been done in some capacity, but that’s okay! We all gather inspiration from being inspired! Reinventing the wheel is both a challenge and a reward!
NOW…for the questions you should be asking yourself!
What if I don’t do it? What if I will never know what I am really capable of, because I am standing in my own way?
Don’t let “YOU” be what’s holding “YOU” back! There are plenty of people out there that will try to do that for you, so don’t do it to YOURSELF!
PUSH yourself! PULL yourself up! And RUN…run toward your dreams, run toward your goals, run toward your happiness…and as you blaze on by, give that “YOU” standing in your way a little wink and a smile as you look over your shoulder and leave them in the dust!
It’s that DAY!! Monday Mentions!! Did someone go out of their way for you recently…maybe they brought you a coffee, maybe they got the kids in the car line, maybe they made you laugh when you really needed it, maybe they were your strength when you had a moment of weakness.
How often do we forget to say, “Hey you! You rock, thank you!” or “Hey friend, I sure needed “that”…I am so grateful to have you in my life!” SO…no matter how big or small the act…if they showed kindness…LET THEM KNOW!
Let’s get our week started off on the right foot…with gratitude and kindness for the people in our lives!
On this fabulous day…I have for you a little episode of “Parental Ponders”!
Recently, our little guys have been listening very closely to what Mommy and Daddy discuss! We knew this time would come, but it seems like just yesterday we had a toddler and an infant in the house and could speak freely without thought.
Now, we find ourselves playing an infinite round of the American Spelling Bee. Sometimes, I feel as if Brian and I are speaking an alternative language all together.
While one of us spells, the other is found silently looking up at the ceiling calculating letters and putting them together…until we smile and say, “Ah, yes, I get it!” And I would be amiss to mention that sometimes I take great pleasure in picking a word that Brian may not know…only to see him struggle…until he finally gives up, shakes his head, and says, “Wait, HOLD ON, what?!”…while I literally LOL!
It’s a funny thing being a parent, you find the simplest things in life changed. Gone are the days of freedom of speech in the house…because, like all parents, we want to protect our kids from the ugliness in the world.
So I leave you with this…what in the world will Brian and I do when our kids learn how to spell?! Well, I HAVE always wanted to learn Italian!
Happy Tuesday to ALL of the amazing parents and spelling bee champions out there!
Change can be hard…not just because it takes hard work, but because some of us like our comfortable bubble and fear stepping outside of that comfort zone. BUT…if we make just ONE small positive change a week, we may start to see a snowball effect of positivity throughout other facets of our lives.
When I started this “dare to dream big” journey of mine…it started small. I thought to myself…what if I change my mindset and stop caring about what others think or whether or not I will fall flat on my face and fail? WHAT WOULD HAPPEN?
I just wanted to finish my novel…that was it…finally sit down and finish that novel. Fast forward seven months later…and the first novel is done, a second novel is started…I have created a blog that has readers in 19 countries, I created and completed season one of a podcast that has nearly 1,000 hours of play-time, I went back to work teaching part-time, I changed my fitness regime, I started eating more healthy (most days 😜), and I am reaching goals that I had feared to ever utter out loud!
One change turned into many, and as I made positive change after positive change, the other areas of my life became sweeter…relationships deeper, laughter louder, and time spent with family and friends more appreciated. My perspective on some very important things changed, and will forever be altered…just because I initially made one positive change.
I am not writing this to say, “Look at me! Look what I did!” I am writing this to say, “LOOK AT YOU! What small change do you need to make to send you off on that snowball course of positivity?!” It only takes one!
BECAUSE if you commit to just one positive change every week…I promise you, that you too might just find your entire world positively changed.
Week 1: What change are you going to make?
When asked a couple of weeks ago, what I consider to be the most important decision I make on a daily basis…the answer was easy. If I take decisions having to do with my husband and children out of the equation…the next most important decision I make every single day is who I surround myself with, who I talk to, and who I invest time into.
I am a perpetually positive person…if you don’t like my happy train ride, you can kindly step off. I don’t handle negativity very well. I don’t flourish around people who are judgmental, talk about others, or put other people down…in fact, I kind of fold into myself when I am around people like this.
I stick like glue and hold on with both hands to the ladies in my life that support each other, love each other as we are, lift each other up, laugh when we are together, recognize and celebrate each other’s achievements, and genuinely want only the best for each other.
My heart hugs these friends a little tighter when busy schedules allow us to see each other or when we get to talk on phone, because these are the ladies that get me…and I get them!
Is there a negative relationship that you need to let go of? Do you find your sunshine turned to clouds when you are around certain people? Maybe it’s time to revaluate your tribe! Life is too busy to spend it with people who don’t make you feel happy, relaxed, and refreshed after spending time with them!
I get my positive vibe, from my positive tribe…and I thank God every day that I am blessed with such an amazing and inspirational group of women to do life with! Happy Tuesday!
We all have goals…maybe you want to lose 20 lbs, maybe you want to start a business, maybe you want to improve a relationship, maybe you want to finally go after that elusive dream…or maybe you just want to focus on finding balance in all aspects of life. Whatever your goal is…don’t get so caught up in the end game that you forget to celebrate the small wins along the way!
What did you do TODAY?! Did you walk for ten minutes? Did you write one page of that novel? Did you make one customer happy? Did you put the phone away and have a blissful “present” moment with your kids? What POSITIVE thing did you ACHIEVE today that you need to recognize and give yourself credit for?
Remember…your goal will always be there, and when you reach it, it will be phenomenal. BUT no major goal was achieved overnight, and quite frankly, sometimes thinking HUGE can be overwhelming…so give yourself that daily win…no matter how small…a small win today will lead to that BIG victory tomorrow!
A Thursday thought! I had a conversation recently, a couple actually, with some ladies who are embarking on new and exciting chapters in their life…this would be all well and good, except both of them have been meeting resistance from the most surprising places. How many times have you had an idea or decided to start a new chapter…only to face judgements and questions, because you were NOT doing what everyone else was doing?!
There is no “How To” guide book in life, yet we are constantly told to do things this way and that way on a day-to-day basis…the expectation is always there…this is the box…this is your place in said box. It is easy to give up on yourself, your dreams, your path, your goals, and possibly your future success just because you are meeting resistance for thinking outside of that box.
We live in a world where, not only do we often feel judged, but we are always compared…compared to the lives we see on social media, compared to the people who have succeeded before us…but the truth is…you will never be the best version of yourself if you don’t let yourself “shine” in YOUR OWN WAY!
True greatness in any facet of life, whether that is professionally or personally, is achieved when you stop being just like everyone else…no matter what others think, unapologetically “Do You,” how you want to “Do You!” Embrace who you are, flaws and all, and when you have a thought that is outside the box…run towards it like a cheetah chasing a gazelle!
A Thursday thought! They say that insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result…like a set of doors in a hallway…do you keep opening the same one expecting a different outcome? In life, if something you are doing isn’t working…change it up…look for an alternative path. We so often get caught up in the minutiae of life that we forget to take a step back and look at things from an outside perspective. What’s working? What isn’t? What needs to be improved? What do you need to change in order to walk through that other door? Life doesn’t come with a manual, we are ALL going to get doors slammed in our face from time to time…but we have to have the courage to walk down that hallway…open another door, face change head on, and walk through!
Happy New Year! Be Leisurely is back with some Monday Motivation to kick off the week! What do you want to do this year? Maybe you have big goals…maybe your goal is simply to slow down a bit and soak up the quiet moments that life gives you. Whatever it may be, the most important thing to remember is that this is your opportunity to fully embrace what you want for yourself, your marriage, your children, and YOUR YEAR! So…I challenge you to put pen to paper and WRITE IT DOWN! GO BIG!! This year…do more of what you love, let go of the things you can’t control, and surround yourself with people who make you the best version of yourself! Happy Monday!
A Thursday Thought…How many times have you beat yourself up because you made a mistake or because you weren’t the best version of yourself on a particular day? We have ALL been there! Maybe you had a bad day at work, maybe your patience with the kids was lacking, maybe you snapped at your spouse…we all have these days from time to time…and that is completely fine…we are human, not robots. However, amidst those days where you look at yourself and think, “Boy, did I mess up x, y, and z today!” remember that you are doing SO many MORE things RIGHT in your life. Give yourself a break. As women and moms, we too often let the “mom-guilt” take over…but we should be looking at ourselves and remembering to give ourselves a pat on the back for ALL of the things we are rocking in this life!! So next time you are having one of those “off-days”…think about this…one mistake or one bad day does not diminish all of the good things that you are absolutely doing RIGHT!
A Tuesday thought…life is filled with so many big moments…life-altering, earth-shattering moments. Sometimes we get so caught up in the “big” moments, that we forget how important and impactful the small moments in life can be. Because, in life, there are so many more small moments…the moments that will flicker away if we don’t stop to appreciate them.
It’s in the smallest moments we experience the sweetest part of life…it’s that perfect afternoon filled with laughter as your kids play in the backyard, it’s the last minute lunch with a good friend that you didn’t know how bad you needed, it’s the encouraging words and the smile a stranger gives you in a grocery line, it’s a ten minute hot bath and a good book.
These moments, these seemingly normal and insignificant moments, are indeed the moments that impact our lives and shape our day to day. Look for these moments, recognize how special they are…as we run through our busy schedules and toward the larger goals in life…let’s not forget about all of the seconds, minutes, and hours that carry us and impact us daily.
As Thanksgiving approaches tomorrow, I hope that everyone has a warm holiday filled with laughter, wonderful memories, great food, and even better company! Thanksgiving is a day where we remember to be thankful for the many things that we have been blessed with in life…but it’s also a reminder that we should look at every day, and ask ourselves, “What do I have to be thankful for today?” We should carry around our blessings with us daily, and never forget that no matter how hard life may become…there is always, always, something to be thankful for! I wish you my very best on this holiday, and as always…Live Happily, Be Leisurely!
Writing the second novel, putting the final touches on today’s podcast release, jotting down quotes for the blog, and answering emails from my students…at the same time. Multi-tasking like a champ today…I just realized that I have been inside my closet for four hours…my booty is completely numb! This is real, this is raw…no filter here folks…just a girl in her closet with stinky running shoes and dirty laundry trying to make things happen!
I got another rejection on my first novel today…but this time it was a “good rejection” if there is such a thing?? The agent said something that hit me, and lit an even bigger fire in my gut!
I started this whole journey a little over three months ago…whenever I start to feel overwhelmed or ask myself why I am doing all of this…this happens, someone reaches out or says something that gives me more motivation.
Additionally, I got a message from a fellow IGer today, she said, “I love that IG makes it so simple to find inspiration from people like YOU.”
I am no one really, just an ordinary person doing ordinary things…but when I hear from people, who are sometimes across the world, it puts the wind back into my sails. I have had the honor throughout this process to inspire, help, and give people a little hope and a smile during their busy day…for me, that’s more than enough for a good day’s work!
So when you start to feel yourself doubting your path or feel the overwhelming question of whether or not it’s worth it…remember, you ARE making a difference to someone out there! And that is ALWAYS WORTH IT!
A Thursday thought…have you ever felt like one of those carnival games where you hit the gopher on the top of the head with the mallet every time the gopher comes back up out of the hole? It’s hard to be that gopher…to keep coming back up with a smile when it seems like the day is determined to hit you over the head with a mallet. We have ALL been there…we get past one thing, and there is another mishap waiting in the wings. But remember, the WAY that you face the day is not determined by the mallet…it is determined by you…have your moment, breathe, and soldier on. We all get overwhelmed…and we are ALL allowed to feel overwhelmed, but we must then take a step back, and be like that little gopher in the carnival machine…come back for more, stronger than before! I hope that wherever you are in the world…you don’t let any negativity you face today extinguish your sunshine…shine on, and know that it’s just one bad day, one bad moment…just one…out of an infinite number of better ones!
Your past does NOT define you, your present, or your future! No matter how big or small…we all have things in our past that could hold our current lives hostage if we let it…don’t! Know that while your history will always be a part of your life, you do not have to give it the power to determine who you will be or what you will achieve. Today is November 1st…that means that it’s a new month, a fresh start, and the perfect opportunity to make new promises to yourself! What do you need to let go of? What do you need to walk away from? Let this month be the month that you do it! Stay positive, appreciate yourself, and know that you are stronger than anything you have faced! Have a fabulous day!
Friday feels! There is a lot of meanness in this world, but I would like to think that, despite what we hear, there is actually a LOT more kindness and good. Remember…everyone has their own set of problems and their own battles they are fighting…maybe their behavior is a byproduct of their situation and the hard time they are facing. When we feel ourselves losing patience or starting to judge the people around us…make a conscious effort to stop feeling annoyed or passing judgment…instead, be kind…stop and listen…show that person that you are there and that you care. If we do this, it may ultimately help them be well…and we will all be better for it. You can never be too kind to those around you…so today, bring your kindness to someone who needs it.
Monday Mantra! As women…how many times do we tear ourselves down, how many times do we beat ourselves up for not being “perfect”…trying to be the perfect wife and the perfect mom, trying to have the perfect body, trying to maintain the perfect career?! Reality check to all my ladies out there…NO ONE you know is perfect…regardless what they may portray. We are ALL human, we all have days when we totally lose at one or more of the roles we play in life. We HAVE to give ourselves A BREAK! It is enough to be “good at life” most of the time, we don’t have to achieve perfection. Realistic perfection, however, is achievable…you will achieve this perfection when you can give yourself the love you deserve while understanding that you are going to make mistakes along the way! Wherever you are in the world…embrace all that you are and all your beautiful imperfections! Have a fabulous day!
Friday Feels! I wake up every day, and go to “work” on this dream of mine! It’s not a part-time gig, it’s not a 8am-5pm gig…I have, admittedly, spent around 14-16 hours a day (mostly into the wee hours of the night) working on shopping my first novel, writing my second novel, creating a podcast, and maintaining a blog. I have taught myself new tech programs and web-based tools. I have written every word, designed every logo…it’s a lot of work. No one will ever know how many hours I have spent chasing this dream. BUT…that’s the point…it doesn’t matter how much time I have spent trying to make this dream come true…it’s just what you do. If we want our dreams to become a reality, we have to treat it like our job! You have to be dedicated enough to the dream, you have to put in the time…nothing worth having ever came easy. So whatever you are trying to achieve…whether it’s a dream or a lifestyle change, whether it’s starting a new business or building a new house…treat it like your job! When life tries to interfere with your schedule, adjust life, so that you can still achieve everything you have sought out to achieve! EVERYONE has the power in them to achieve the things they have always wanted! Your dreams are waiting for you…what do you need to do to make it happen? Have a fabulous weekend!
A Thursday Thought! We have ALL been there…you meant to call a friend today, you will respond to that text message when you have a minute to think, you will schedule a lunch when you have time to eat…we are ALL busy! But here is the thing…we never know what tomorrow may bring. So…pick up that phone, send a quick message, carve out an hour to see someone’s face…these moments with the people in your life are the ones you will hold on to! And bonus…not only will you make someone smile, you also might make someone’s bad day a lot better! So, tell someone you love them, tell them you miss them, tell them you appreciate them…whatever the message may be…reach out and “touch” somebody today!! ❤️
Monday Mantra! While most people dread Mondays…I have always loved them! Mondays give us the opportunity to have a fresh start, fresh focus, and a fresh attitude. So on this Monday…whatever life armor you wear…Mommy, Wife, Career Woman, etc…suit up and make this week relish in your presence! Wherever you are in the world, I hope you have a Marvelous Monday!
Give me the warmth of the sun ☀️ , the touch of the sand 🏖, the smell of the salty sea 🌊 , and the love of my soul-mate ❤️…vacation begins!! As the weekend approaches, remember to make some “me time” and surround yourself with the people and activities that bring the “happy” and make you “shine!” Wherever you are in the world…have a terrific Thursday! My best, and as always…Live Happily, Be Leisurely! X❤️-Tara Rae
Wednesday Wisdom! It’s very easy to look at other people and think…”Well of course they’re happy…look how lucky they are…they have the perfect job, the perfect family, the perfect situation.” HERE’S THE TRUTH…we are all in control of our own happiness! We determine how we want to react when situations don’t go our way…when we are perpetually unlucky. We CHOOSE if we want to smile through the tough times. We CHOOSE if we want to look at the positive side of a cruddy situation. Again…we are in control of our own happiness! So CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY…it’s so much easier than being negative and angry about life’s little mishaps. I hope and pray on this beautiful day…that happiness finds you in every possible way!
I used to step on the scale dreading what the number might be. I would agonize about needing to lose weight, I would break myself down and pick out every inch of my body that I couldn’t stand. After I had my second little boy, something changed…a shift occurred. I started to love my body for what it was, and although it took time, I stopped comparing myself physically to others. I stopped focusing on the number on the scale, and I started focusing on becoming stronger. I began doing workouts that pushed me physically and meal plans that made me feel nourished, instead of doing diets that made me feel weak and depleted. And the stronger I became, the more confident I became in my own skin.
Fast forward three years, and I feel better about my body and my physicality than I ever have. I can do a two minute plank series without batting an eye, I can scale walls and pull myself over those walls with my finger tips, I can climb to the top of a twenty foot rope, I can carry my boys around without being in pain the next day, and a while ago I carried a 50 inch television up a flight of stairs for my mom! These are all things that the “other Tara” couldn’t do…the “skinnier Tara.” I am not the skinniest I have ever been, but I am stronger than ever before…and feeling strong is EMPOWERING!! So don’t focus on a number on the scale, work on making your body stronger and healthier overall…the weight loss will come as a by-product of living a healthier lifestyle!
It’s so easy to get overwhelmed when you are in the trenches “doing life” every day. In order to achieve your life goals, without exhausting yourself, you must create a healthy balance. When we run full-force toward a goal without maintaining balance, we will often experience burn-out and leave that goal on the table unsuccessful. So on this beautiful fall Saturday…ask yourself…what are the most important parts of my life? What could I balance better for both myself and my family? What needs to change? Whatever the answer may be…one thing is for sure, once you achieve a healthy balance within your life, your quality of life will improve drastically. Have a terrific weekend!
A daily dose of wisdom! Why do we crave the permission and approval from people that have no stake in the game?! Only we truly know what is best for ourselves…it’s your life, your children, your marriage, your career, etc. If someone disagrees with how you run your day to day, but it works fabulously for you and yours, who cares?! Stop asking for permission or looking for approval from the people that don’t really count. Focus on the people and things that matter. If you constantly live your life in a state of pleasing other people, the only thing you will find when all is said and done is the shell of the person you could have been.
You never know what tomorrow may bring…imagine if it just took one more day to make all of your dreams come true?! Don’t let the tough days take away the day when everything will finally click into place…dig in, dig deep, and keep pushing!
This one is pretty mind blowing…when you start to doubt yourself and when you start to compare yourself to others…REMEMBER THIS!! So many things had to happen from creation until now for you to be EXACTLY who you are meant to be!! Embrace all that is “YOU”! Be proud and confident in the person you wake up as each morning, because there is nothing more attractive than someone who is unapologetically confident in who they are…flaws and all! Have a marvelous day…take the day by storm and make the world relish in your authentic presence!
Finally feeling a little fall in the air today…so what’s a proper fall quote without mentioning pumpkin spice?! Laughter is one of the greatest gifts we are blessed with in life. Not only is laughter healthy for your body, it is also essential to get us through the tough times life throws our way. When was the last time you really laughed…a belly-busting, nose snorting kind of laugh? You may have just surprised yourself with the answer. So in honor of fall, pumpkin spice, and everything nice…make a date with laughter! Do something that will bring on the smiles…whether that’s spending time with your favorite person, watching your favorite comedy, or reading your favorite book!
A gentle reminder…there are so many things that we cram into our daily lives…we are raising a family, we are reaching our goals, we are working hard, we are pursuing our dreams, we are changing our lifestyles…but don’t forget…we must also listen to our bodies and minds! Take a day to refresh and recharge, take a day to “just exist”…and absolutely under no circumstances should you feel guilty about taking this time! What makes you relax…do it! Your brain and body will function more efficiently after a rest day, and you will face tomorrow’s “to do” list with a new found ferocity!
Sometimes making a change in life is hard, even if you know it’s the right change to make. Never let fear of the unknown overshadow what your life can become…you will most likely NEVER regret the positive changes you have attempted to make in life, however, you will most definitely regret all of the things that “could have been” if you didn’t believe in your strength and take that leap! Positive changes yield positive results! What changes do you need to make?
Some evening inspiration…because we all have days that make us want to fast forward to tomorrow, but the bad days aren’t without purpose…for there is no better reward in life than having “that day,” that magical day when you feel like the world has opened it’s arms and wrapped you in a great big hug! Those are the days that replace and ink out the cruddy days…those are the days we live for!
Daily mantra! People will always have an opinion about who you are, what you’re doing, and what you should be doing…stop listening to those people!! Shut out the negative energy in your life and listen to your heart…if you want to try something, chase a dream, make a lifestyle change…do it. Be the best version of yourself on your terms…not anyone else’s!
Happy Day! Food for thought…what gift do you have that the world needs?! We all have one…some of us aren’t even aware what our natural strengths are. Find out where you naturally “shine”, share it with the people in your life, and live your best life knowing that you are using the gift you were born with!
Morning mantra…NO EXCUSES…make yourself believe that you are meant to conquer whatever it is in life that you are contemplating doing…take that leap and believe in your ability to achieve anything!
Soul session…because one of the most important decisions we make in life are the people we choose to “do life” with. Do the people in your life encourage you, believe in you, unconditionally love you for who you are, embrace your perfections and your flaws, do they make you smile and laugh, do they make you happy…make sure you choose your team wisely, you only get one chance to play the game of life!
Some afternoon “feels”! I think it goes without saying that we ALL want to be happy…but doing it on purpose…now that’s the difference! Listen to your inner-voice, ask yourself the question…and then run towards your happiness like your life depends on it, because a “happy” life does!
Some morning motivation! Because let’s be honest, we can all use a little reminder to be “present” and enjoy the fleeting moments that we may miss if we aren’t looking! Put that phone down and look up at your life!