No…Really, What Do You WANT?!

What do you want? When was the last time you asked yourself this question? Think about it…Really, WHAT DO YOU WANT?!

A couple of months ago, I texted my husband and told him that we needed to sit down and have a talk. As typical for any husband, he typed back, “Oh no, what’s wrong?!”

I assured him that nothing was wrong and that we just needed to check-in with each other, so we planned a lunch date.

I was just about to launch this blog, I was about to dive into my second novel (while tirelessly shopping the first), and the semester was about to start at the university…I needed to make sure we were both on the same page. Laser focused, I was about to run full speed into the unknown, he was traveling like a sky warrior for work, and our boys were about to add more activities to their schedules.

I didn’t want all of this effort to be fruitless, I wanted a goal…I needed an endgame. And of course in all things…my family comes first. If the boys weren’t flourishing and happy, I knew that I couldn’t achieve everything I was setting out to do. And my unconditionally supportive husband…I had to make sure that Brian’s dreams and ambitions were part of the plan, I refused to let him lose his “shine” while he supported me as I sparkled.

So we asked ourselves. Where did we want to be in next five years…what did we want our life to look like, what did we want for our children, what did we want for our marriage, and what did we want for ourselves? We came up with an amazing plan, and quite frankly, it was thrilling and exciting to think about what Brian and I could achieve by the time we turned 40!

So now, I ask you…”What do you want?” It might seem like an easy question, and maybe it is in theory, but the pathway to bring you what you want takes planning, motivation, and a take life by the horns attitude.

As always, it can be scary to go after what you want and you may absolutely fail. But who cares? You should not be scared of failure. You should be scared of not having enough courage to try something that you may fail at. Your failures do NOT define your successes in life.

And PLEASE…don’t negate the incredible things you are doing in life by comparing your “wants” and life to someone else’s. Maybe your best friend is opening a business, just completed an Iron Man, and is currently traveling the world…that’s great…for your best friend. But you…maybe all you have ever wanted in life is to be a stay-at-home mom and wife…that’s equally inspiring and amazing!

You can fulfill your “wants” and have just as much happiness in your life even if you don’t want to conquer the world. Everyone’s “wants” are different, everyone’s lives are different, everyone’s definition of success is different…and the formula to get there is not a “one size fits all.”

But what is YOUR formula? How are you going to get there…how are you going to achieve your wants, your desires, your goals? I hope that once you pave the road, the ride to success is filled with excitement, happiness, laughs, and pride in looking back on all that you have achieved. Get up and go get it…get all of those things you have ever wanted!

Wherever you are in the world, have a wonderful Wednesday Leisurelings!

My best, and As Always…

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